Banishing Spell Backfire: Why Banishment Brought Them Back Instead

Banishment Spell Made It Worse: Understanding Reverse Banishing Effect

You cast a banishing spell to remove someone or something from your life. You wanted them gone, out of your space, out of your energy. But instead of leaving, they came back stronger. They showed up more, contacted you more, or became more present in your life than before the spell. Your banishing spell backfired, creating the opposite of what you intended, and you're left wondering: why did banishing bring them back? Did I do the spell wrong? Is this a sign? How do I actually get rid of them now?

Banishing spells backfiring is one of the most frustrating magical experiences because it makes the problem worse instead of better. But reverse banishing effects aren't random—they usually happen because of how you framed the spell, the energy you put into it, resistance from the target, or the universe showing you that banishing isn't the right approach. Understanding why banishing backfired can help you fix the problem and choose more effective methods.

Why Banishing Spells Bring Things Back

1. You Focused on What You Don't Want (Law of Attraction)

The most common cause of reverse banishing: you focused so intensely on the person/thing you wanted gone that you actually attracted them more strongly.

What happens:

• During the spell, you thought obsessively about the person
• You visualized them in detail (even if visualizing them leaving)
• You put intense emotional energy into the spell (anger, fear, desperation)
• You kept checking if they were gone (giving them continued attention)

Why it backfires: Energy follows attention. The universe doesn't distinguish between "I want this" and "I don't want this"—it just sees you focusing on something and brings more of it. You essentially sent them a massive energetic signal.

Example: You spend an hour doing a banishing ritual thinking "Get out of my life, get out of my life, get out of my life" while visualizing their face. You just spent an hour focusing all your energy on them. They feel that energy and are drawn to it.

Solution: Focus on what you DO want (peace, freedom, new connections) rather than what you don't want. Shift from "banish them" to "attract peace and freedom."

2. Your Emotional Energy Was Wrong

Banishing done from anger, fear, or desperation often backfires because those emotions create energetic hooks that pull the person back.

Problematic emotions:

• Anger: Creates a cord of conflict that keeps you connected
• Fear: Attracts what you're afraid of
• Desperation: Signals that you're still very attached
• Obsession: Keeps you energetically entangled
• Revenge: Ties you to them through the desire to harm

What happens: The emotional charge in the spell creates an energetic connection instead of severing one. You're essentially reaching out to them with intense emotion, which draws them back.

Solution: Banish from a place of calm neutrality or even compassion. "I release you with love. You are free. I am free. We are separate." Detachment is more powerful than force.

3. The Person Is Resisting or Fighting Back

If the person has strong will, their own magical practice, or is energetically attached to you, they can resist the banishing and even reverse it.

Signs of resistance:

• The person is obsessive or possessive
• They practice magic themselves
• They have strong will or personality
• They're actively trying to stay in your life
• You feel pushback or opposition during the spell

What happens: Your banishing energy hits their resistance and bounces back, or they sense the banishing and fight against it by coming closer.

Solution: Combine banishing with binding (to stop their resistance) or use freezer spells (to freeze their ability to affect you) before banishing.

4. You Created a Vacuum That Drew Them Back

Banishing creates empty space. If you don't fill that space with something positive, the person can flow back into the vacuum.

What happens:

• You banish them but don't fill the space they occupied
• You're left with emptiness, loneliness, or boredom
• The vacuum pulls them back because there's nothing else there
• You unconsciously invite them back to fill the void

Solution: After banishing, immediately fill your life with positive things—new activities, new people, self-care, goals. Don't leave empty space for them to return to.

5. The Spell Was Poorly Worded or Unclear

Vague or contradictory banishing intentions can create opposite results.

Problematic wording:

• "I don't want to see [name] anymore" (focuses on seeing them)
• "[Name] needs to leave me alone" (focuses on them, not freedom)
• "Get out of my life" (aggressive, emotionally charged)
• "I banish [name]" without specifying where or how

What happens: The spell follows your words literally or focuses on the wrong part of your intention.

Solution: Use clear, positive wording: "I am free and at peace. [Name] and I are separate. Our paths diverge. I release all connection."

6. You're Not Ready to Let Them Go

Sometimes banishing backfires because part of you doesn't actually want them gone, even if you consciously think you do.

Signs you're not ready:

• You feel conflicted about the banishing
• Part of you misses them or wants them back
• You're banishing out of anger but still care about them
• You keep checking if they're gone (hoping they'll return?)
• You feel relief when they come back

What happens: Your subconscious sabotages the banishing because you're not truly ready. The spell reflects your inner conflict.

Solution: Get clear on what you really want. Do inner work to understand your ambivalence. Don't banish until you're genuinely ready to let go.

7. The Universe Is Saying "Not This Way"

Sometimes banishing backfires because it's not the right approach for the situation. The universe is redirecting you.

Signs it's the wrong approach:

• The banishing feels wrong or forced
• Multiple attempts fail or backfire
• You get strong intuitive hits to try something else
• The situation requires healing or communication, not banishing

What's happening: The universe is showing you that banishing isn't the solution. You may need to address the relationship differently.

Solution: Consider alternatives—cord cutting, healing work, communication, or simply setting boundaries without magic.

8. You're Dealing With a Karmic Connection

If the connection is karmic or soul-level, simple banishing won't work. The person will keep returning until the karmic lesson is learned.

Signs of karmic connection:

• The person keeps coming back no matter what you do
• The relationship feels fated or unavoidable
• There are intense lessons or patterns involved
• You've tried everything and they still return

What's happening: You're meant to work through something with this person. Banishing won't work until the lesson is complete.

Solution: Focus on learning the lesson, healing the pattern, or revoking soul contracts rather than banishing.

What to Do When Banishing Backfires

Step 1: Stop the Backfired Spell

First, neutralize the spell that's bringing them back:

• State clearly: "I reverse and undo the banishing spell I cast on [date]. All effects are neutralized."
• Burn a white or black candle to absorb the spell's energy
• Cleanse yourself and your space
• Release all emotional charge around the person

Step 2: Assess Why It Backfired

Reflect honestly:

• Did I focus too much on them during the spell?
• Was I angry, fearful, or desperate?
• Am I truly ready to let them go?
• Did I fill the space they left?
• Is this a karmic connection?
• What is the universe trying to tell me?

Step 3: Address the Root Cause

Fix what caused the backfire:

• If you're not ready: Do inner work until you are
• If it's karmic: Focus on learning the lesson
• If you're too attached: Work on detachment and self-sufficiency
• If they're resisting: Add binding or freezing first

Step 4: Choose a Different Approach

Instead of banishing again, try:

Cord cutting: Sever energetic ties without forcing them away

Freezer spell: Freeze their ability to affect you without banishing

Return to sender: Send their energy back without engaging

Mirror spell: Reflect their energy back to them

Attraction spell for peace: Focus on attracting peace and freedom, not on removing them

Boundary setting: Magical and mundane boundaries without aggressive banishing

Healing work: Heal the wound that keeps you connected

Step 5: If You Must Banish, Do It Differently

If banishing is truly necessary, approach it correctly:

Banish from neutrality, not emotion:

• Calm, detached state
• No anger, fear, or desperation
• Matter-of-fact: "Our paths diverge. We are separate."

Focus on freedom, not them:

• "I am free and at peace"
• "My space is clear and protected"
• "I attract positive connections"
• Visualize yourself in peace, not them leaving

Fill the vacuum immediately:

• Plan new activities before the spell
• Have positive things ready to fill your time and energy
• Don't leave empty space

Use clear, positive wording:

• "[Name] and I are separate. Our connection is severed. We each go our own way in peace."
• Avoid negative phrasing ("don't," "not," "never")

Combine with protection:

• After banishing, immediately protect yourself
• Shield against their return
• Set energetic boundaries

Step 6: Maintain the Separation

After successful banishing:

• No contact: Don't reach out, respond, or engage
• No attention: Don't think about them, check on them, or talk about them
• Fill your life: Stay busy with positive things
• Redirect thoughts: When they come to mind, consciously shift focus
• Maintain boundaries: If they try to return, hold firm

Better Alternatives to Banishing

Freezer Spell

Freezes their ability to affect you without forcing them away:

• Write their name on paper
• Place in water in a container
• Freeze it
• They become "frozen out" of your life naturally

Cord Cutting

Severs energetic connection without aggressive banishing:

• Visualize cords between you
• Cut them with Archangel Michael's help
• Seal both ends
• Release them with love

Attraction Spell for Peace

Focus on what you want, not what you don't:

• "I attract peace, freedom, and positive connections"
• "My life is filled with joy and harmony"
• Visualize your ideal life without them (but don't focus on their absence)

Road Opening

Opens new paths so you naturally move away from them:

• Road opening spells create new opportunities
• You move forward into new things
• They naturally fall away as you progress

FAQs About Banishing Backfire

Why did my ex come back after I banished them?

You likely focused too much on them during the spell, creating an energetic signal. Or you're not truly ready to let them go. Try cord cutting instead.

Can banishing spells make someone obsessed with you?

If done with intense emotion or if they sense the banishing and resist it, yes. The energy can create the opposite effect.

Should I banish them again if they came back?

No. Repeated banishing that fails means it's the wrong approach. Try a different method (freezer spell, cord cutting, etc.).

What if I want them gone but part of me doesn't?

Don't banish until you're fully ready. Do inner work to resolve the conflict first. Ambivalent banishing always backfires.

Can I undo a backfired banishing spell?

Yes. State that you reverse and neutralize the spell, cleanse yourself and your space, and release all emotional charge around the person.

The Bottom Line

Banishing spells bringing people back is usually caused by focusing too much on the person during the spell, doing it from anger or fear, or not being truly ready to let them go. The intense energy you put into banishing can actually attract them more strongly, creating the opposite of what you intended.

If banishing backfired, don't try again the same way. Assess why it failed, address the root cause, and choose a different approach. Often, cord cutting, freezer spells, or attraction spells for peace work better than aggressive banishing.

And remember: the most powerful banishing is simply letting go emotionally, filling your life with positive things, and moving forward without looking back. Sometimes the best magic is no magic at all—just genuine detachment and forward momentum.