Trauma-Informed Tarot Reading: Ethical Considerations

BY NICOLE LAU

Tarot is powerful. It can reveal hidden truths, provide guidance, and facilitate deep healing. But when you're reading for someone with trauma—or when you yourself are a trauma survivor using tarot—the stakes are higher.

A poorly timed or insensitively delivered reading can retraumatize. A reader who doesn't understand trauma can cause harm, even with good intentions. And certain tarot practices that work for general readings can be triggering or dangerous for trauma survivors.

Trauma-informed tarot reading is the practice of using tarot in a way that honors trauma, creates safety, respects boundaries, and supports healing without causing harm.

Whether you're a professional reader, a casual practitioner, or someone using tarot for self-healing, this is your complete guide to trauma-informed tarot reading.

What Is Trauma-Informed Tarot?

Core Principles

Trauma-informed tarot is guided by these principles:

• Safety: Create physical, emotional, and energetic safety
• Trustworthiness: Be reliable, honest, and boundaried
• Choice: The querent always has choice and control
• Collaboration: Work WITH the querent, not on them
• Empowerment: Support their agency and autonomy
• Cultural sensitivity: Honor their background and beliefs

What Makes Tarot Trauma-Informed?

• Recognizing signs of trauma in querents
• Avoiding retraumatizing language or interpretations
• Knowing when to refer to professional help
• Creating safe containers for vulnerable work
• Respecting boundaries and consent
• Understanding your own limitations as a reader

Recognizing Trauma in Querents

Signs Someone May Have Trauma

• Dissociation during the reading (spacing out, glazed eyes)
• Hypervigilance (constantly scanning, difficulty relaxing)
• Emotional dysregulation (sudden tears, anger, or shutdown)
• Difficulty making eye contact
• Flinching or startling easily
• Asking questions about abuse, violence, or safety
• Mentioning past trauma directly

What NOT to Do

• Don't ask invasive questions about their trauma
• Don't push them to share details
• Don't diagnose them ("You have PTSD")
• Don't assume you know their story
• Don't treat them as fragile or broken

What TO Do

• Create extra safety and grounding
• Go slower, check in more often
• Offer more choice and control
• Be prepared to pause or stop if needed
• Have resources ready (therapist referrals, crisis lines)

Creating a Trauma-Informed Reading Space

Physical Safety

• Well-lit, comfortable space
• Clear exits (don't block the door)
• Appropriate distance (not too close)
• No sudden movements or loud noises
• Option to have support person present

Emotional Safety

• Warm, non-judgmental presence
• Clear boundaries and expectations
• Confidentiality assured
• Permission to stop at any time
• Validation of all emotions

Energetic Safety

• Cleanse and protect the space
• Ground before and after
• Set clear energetic boundaries
• Close the reading properly

Trauma-Informed Card Interpretations

Difficult Cards: How to Deliver Them

Cards like The Tower, Death, The Devil, 10 of Swords can be triggering.

DON'T Say:

• "Everything is falling apart"
• "You're going to experience a terrible loss"
• "You're trapped and powerless"
• "Something bad is coming"

DO Say:

• The Tower: "This card suggests a major shift or change. What needs to be released so something new can emerge?"
• Death: "This is about transformation and endings that make space for new beginnings. What chapter is closing?"
• The Devil: "This card asks: where might you be giving your power away? What patterns are ready to be released?"
• 10 of Swords: "This represents a painful ending, but also the moment before dawn. The worst is over. What's ready to heal?"

Reframing Trauma Cards

When cards directly relate to trauma:

• 5 of Swords (betrayal): Focus on reclaiming power, not on the betrayal itself
• 3 of Swords (heartbreak): Acknowledge pain, but emphasize healing and integration
• 9 of Swords (anxiety/nightmares): Validate the struggle, offer grounding and support

Consent and Boundaries

Informed Consent

Before the reading, explain:

• What to expect in the reading
• That difficult cards may come up
• They can stop at any time
• They don't have to answer questions they're uncomfortable with
• You're not a therapist (if you're not)

Ongoing Consent

During the reading, check in:

• "Is it okay if we explore this further?"
• "How are you feeling right now?"
• "Do you want to continue or take a break?"

Respecting "No"

• If they don't want to answer a question, don't push
• If they want to stop, stop immediately
• If they don't want a certain card interpreted, skip it

Questions to Avoid

Invasive Questions

• "What happened to you?" (Don't ask for trauma details)
• "Were you abused?" (Don't diagnose or assume)
• "Why didn't you leave?" (Victim-blaming)
• "Have you forgiven them?" (Pressuring forgiveness)

Better Alternatives

• "What would be most helpful to explore today?"
• "What do you need guidance on?"
• "How can the cards support your healing?"
• "What feels important for you to know right now?"

When to Refer to Professional Help

Red Flags That Require Referral

• Suicidal thoughts or plans
• Active self-harm
• Psychosis or severe mental health crisis
• Ongoing abuse (they need safety planning, not tarot)
• Severe dissociation or flashbacks during reading

How to Refer

• "I'm noticing you're struggling with [issue]. I think a therapist could really support you with this. Would you like some referrals?"
• Have a list of resources ready (therapists, crisis lines, support groups)
• Don't shame them for needing professional help
• Affirm that seeking help is strength, not weakness

Know Your Scope

As a tarot reader, you are NOT:

• A therapist (unless you're also licensed)
• A doctor
• A crisis counselor
• Qualified to treat mental illness

You ARE:

• A spiritual guide
• A mirror for insight
• A support for self-reflection
• A complement to professional help, not a replacement

Self-Care for Trauma-Informed Readers

Vicarious Trauma

Reading for trauma survivors can affect you.

• You may absorb their pain
• You may experience secondary trauma
• You may feel emotionally drained

Protect Yourself

• Energetic boundaries: Cleanse and protect before/after readings
• Emotional boundaries: Their trauma is not yours to carry
• Time boundaries: Limit trauma-focused readings per day
• Supervision: Debrief with a mentor or therapist
• Self-care: Ground, rest, replenish after heavy readings

Trauma-Informed Spreads

The Safety and Grounding Spread (3 cards)

1. Card 1: What helps me feel safe right now?
2. Card 2: What grounds me?
3. Card 3: What support is available to me?

The Gentle Healing Spread (5 cards)

1. Card 1: Where I am now
2. Card 2: What I need to release (gently)
3. Card 3: What supports my healing
4. Card 4: What I'm ready to reclaim
5. Card 5: Next gentle step forward

The Empowerment Spread (4 cards)

1. Card 1: My inner strength
2. Card 2: What I'm reclaiming
3. Card 3: How I can honor my boundaries
4. Card 4: My path forward

Reading for Yourself as a Trauma Survivor

Be Gentle with Yourself

• Don't force yourself to read triggering cards
• Take breaks when needed
• Ground before and after
• Have support available

Modify Practices

• Skip cards that are too triggering
• Use gentler spreads
• Focus on empowerment, not pain
• Combine tarot with therapy, not instead of it

Know When to Stop

• If tarot is retraumatizing you, stop
• If you're using it to avoid therapy, stop
• If it's increasing dissociation, stop
• Tarot should support healing, not harm it

Ethical Guidelines for Trauma-Informed Readers

• Do no harm: Above all, don't retraumatize
• Stay in your lane: Don't practice therapy without a license
• Refer when needed: Know when professional help is required
• Maintain boundaries: Don't become their therapist or savior
• Continue learning: Educate yourself about trauma
• Get supervision: Debrief difficult readings with a mentor
• Practice self-care: You can't pour from an empty cup

The Deeper Truth

Tarot can be a powerful tool for trauma healing—but only when used with care, wisdom, and trauma-informed awareness.

As readers, we hold sacred space for people's most vulnerable moments. That's a responsibility, not just a skill.

When we read with trauma-informed principles, we create safety. We empower. We support healing without causing harm.

And that's the highest calling of tarot work.

This completes the Trauma Healing + Energy Work series (1-25). May your healing be deep, your practice be wise, and your journey be blessed.