Cord Cutting: How to Release Energetic Attachments & Unhealthy Bonds

Cut the Cords, Reclaim Your Energy

Energetic cords are invisible connections between you and other people, places, situations, or even past versions of yourself. Some cords are healthy—the loving connection between parent and child, the bond between true friends, the tie to a place you love. But other cords are draining, unhealthy, or no longer serving you—the attachment to a toxic ex, the energetic drain from a manipulative relationship, the tie to a traumatic event, the connection to an old version of yourself you've outgrown. These unhealthy cords siphon your energy, keep you stuck in the past, and prevent you from moving forward freely.

Cord cutting is the practice of intentionally severing these unhealthy energetic attachments. It's not about cutting people out of your life (though sometimes that's also necessary); it's about releasing the energetic hold they have on you. You can cut cords with someone and still love them, still have them in your life, but without the unhealthy energetic dynamic. Cord cutting is about reclaiming your energy, releasing what no longer serves you, and freeing yourself to move forward. It's one of the most powerful healing practices available, and it's something everyone should know how to do.

This tutorial will teach you how to identify unhealthy cords, multiple methods for cutting them, and how to protect yourself from forming new unhealthy attachments.

What Are Energetic Cords?

How They Form

• Through relationships (romantic, family, friendship)
• Through intense emotional experiences
• Through trauma or conflict
• Through sexual intimacy
• Through prolonged contact or focus
• Through manipulation or control

Types of Cords

Healthy cords:

• Loving parent-child bond
• Supportive friendship connection
• Healthy romantic partnership
• Connection to beloved place or practice
• These nourish both parties

Unhealthy cords:

• Codependent relationships
• Toxic or abusive connections
• Energetic vampirism (one-sided drain)
• Obsessive attachments
• Trauma bonds
• Cords to past versions of yourself
• These drain one or both parties

Signs You Have Unhealthy Cords

Emotional Signs

• Can't stop thinking about someone (obsessively)
• Feel drained after interacting with certain people
• Difficulty moving on from past relationships
• Feeling someone's emotions as if they're your own
• Sense of being energetically pulled or tugged
• Feeling incomplete without someone

Physical Signs

• Fatigue or exhaustion around certain people
• Physical sensations in chakra areas (especially solar plexus)
• Feeling heavy or weighed down
• Difficulty sleeping (thinking of someone)

Behavioral Signs

• Checking someone's social media obsessively
• Unable to make decisions without someone's input
• Sacrificing your needs for someone else's
• Feeling responsible for someone else's emotions
• Repeating unhealthy relationship patterns

When to Cut Cords

Appropriate Times

• After ending a relationship (romantic or otherwise)
• When feeling drained by someone
• After a traumatic event
• When stuck in the past
• When someone is manipulating or controlling you
• When you can't stop thinking about someone unhealthily
• When moving on from old patterns or identities
• Regularly as energetic hygiene

Important Notes

• Cutting cords doesn't mean cutting people from your life
• You can cut cords and still love someone
• Cords can reform (especially with people still in your life)
• May need to cut cords multiple times
• This is about energetic freedom, not abandonment

Cord Cutting Methods

Method 1: Visualization Cord Cutting (Simplest)

1. Sit comfortably, close eyes
2. Ground and center
3. Visualize the person or situation
4. See cords connecting you to them:
5. May appear as ropes, tubes, threads
6. Notice where they attach to your body
7. Often solar plexus, heart, or sacral chakra
8. Visualize cutting the cords:
9. Use imaginary scissors, sword, or light
10. Cut firmly and completely
11. See cords dissolving or falling away
12. Seal the attachment points:
13. Visualize white or golden light
14. Healing and sealing where cords were
15. Thank the person/situation for lessons learned
16. Release them with love
17. Ground and protect yourself

Method 2: Candle Cord Cutting Ritual

Materials:

• Two candles (one for you, one for other person/situation)
• String or yarn
• Scissors or knife
• Fireproof surface

Instructions:

1. Place candles a few inches apart
2. Tie string between them (represents cord)
3. Light both candles
4. State intention: "I release all unhealthy attachments to [person/situation]"
5. Cut the string between candles
6. Let both candles burn completely (or extinguish safely)
7. Dispose of string (bury or burn)
8. Ground and protect

Method 3: Archangel Michael Cord Cutting

1. Call upon Archangel Michael (angel of protection and cutting cords)
2. "Archangel Michael, I ask for your help in cutting all cords that no longer serve my highest good"
3. Visualize Michael with his sword
4. See him cutting all unhealthy cords
5. Feel the release and freedom
6. Thank Archangel Michael
7. Ground and protect

Method 4: Bathing Cord Cutting

1. Draw bath with salt and cleansing herbs
2. As you soak, visualize cords dissolving
3. See them washing away in the water
4. Speak release: "I release all that no longer serves me"
5. Drain tub, visualizing cords going down drain
6. Don't rinse—let salt dry on skin

Method 5: Written Cord Cutting

1. Write letter to person/situation
2. Express everything you need to say
3. Don't send it—this is for you
4. Read it aloud
5. Burn the letter safely
6. As it burns, visualize cords burning away
7. Bury or scatter ashes

Complete Cord Cutting Ritual

Preparation

• Choose quiet time when won't be disturbed
• Gather materials (candles, scissors, etc.)
• Cleanse space
• Ground and center

The Ritual

1. Cast circle or create sacred space
2. Call in protection (guides, angels, deity)
3. State intention clearly:
4. "I release all unhealthy cords to [person/situation]"
5. "I reclaim my energy and my power"
6. Perform chosen cord cutting method
7. Seal and heal:
8. Visualize white light healing attachment points
9. Place hands on areas where cords were
10. Breathe healing energy into those spaces
11. Reclaim your energy:
12. Call back all energy that was yours
13. "I call back all my energy, cleansed and purified"
14. Fill with light:
15. Visualize yourself filled with golden light
16. No empty spaces, only wholeness
17. Set boundaries:
18. Affirm your energetic boundaries
19. "I am sovereign. My energy is my own"
20. Thank and release helping spirits
21. Close circle
22. Ground thoroughly

After the Ritual

• Drink water
• Eat something grounding
• Rest if needed
• Journal about experience
• Be gentle with yourself

What Happens After Cord Cutting

Immediate Effects

• Feeling lighter or freer
• Sense of relief
• Emotional release (crying is common)
• Fatigue (you've done energy work)
• Clarity about the relationship/situation

Days/Weeks After

• Less obsessive thinking about person
• More energy and vitality
• Ability to move forward
• Healthier boundaries
• Sometimes: person reaches out (they feel the shift)

Possible Challenges

• Grief or sadness (even if cutting was necessary)
• Feeling of emptiness (temporary)
• Person may react to energetic shift
• Cords may try to reform (especially with people still in life)

Preventing Unhealthy Cords

Energetic Boundaries

• Visualize protective bubble around you
• Affirm: "My energy is my own"
• Don't over-give or over-share energy
• Maintain healthy emotional boundaries

Regular Maintenance

• Cut cords regularly (monthly or as needed)
• Even healthy relationships can develop unhealthy cords
• Energetic hygiene like physical hygiene

Awareness

• Notice when you feel drained
• Pay attention to who/what drains you
• Address issues early
• Don't let cords build up

Important Considerations

Cutting Cords Doesn't Mean Cutting People

• You can cut cords and still have relationship
• Creates healthier dynamic
• Releases unhealthy patterns, not the person
• Allows relationship to evolve or end naturally

Cords Can Reform

• Especially with people still in your life
• This is normal
• Cut again as needed
• Work on boundaries to prevent unhealthy reformation

Some Cords Are Meant to Stay

• Healthy parent-child bonds
• Loving partnerships
• Deep friendships
• Don't cut healthy cords
• Focus on unhealthy attachments only

The Freedom of Release

Carrying unhealthy energetic cords is like walking through life with invisible chains. They drain your energy, keep you stuck in the past, tie you to people and situations that no longer serve you, and prevent you from moving forward freely. When you cut these cords, you're not being cruel or abandoning anyone—you're reclaiming your sovereignty, your energy, your power. You're declaring that you are whole and complete on your own, that you don't need to be energetically entangled with anyone to be okay.

Cord cutting is an act of self-love and self-respect. It's saying: my energy is valuable, my wellbeing matters, I deserve to be free. It's releasing the past so you can fully inhabit the present. It's letting go of who you were so you can become who you're meant to be. It's one of the most liberating practices you can do.

Cut the cords. Reclaim your energy. Be free.

Begin Your Cord Cutting Practice

You now know how to identify and cut unhealthy energetic cords.

Start with the visualization method—it's simple, requires no tools, and is surprisingly powerful. Think of one person or situation you need to release. Sit quietly, visualize the cords, and cut them. Notice how you feel afterward. Make cord cutting a regular practice, part of your energetic hygiene routine. Free yourself from what no longer serves you.

Your freedom awaits. Let's cut some cords.

May you be free, may your energy be your own, and may you release all that no longer serves you. Blessed cutting! ✂️✨