I Cut Cords with My Ex: My Severed Cord Experience

BY NICOLE LAU

I Cut Cords with My Ex: My Severed Cord Experience

I thought I was over him.

It had been eight months since we ended things. I'd done the therapy. I'd done the journaling. I'd even dated other people.

But I still woke up thinking about him. I still felt him in my chest—a tightness, a pull, like an invisible thread I couldn't shake.

That's when I realized: I hadn't actually let go. I was still corded.

This is my experience with energetic cord cutting—what worked, what didn't, and what I wish I'd known from the beginning.

The Signs I Was Still Corded

At first, I didn't recognize it as an energetic cord. I just thought I was "still processing."

But the signs were clear:

• Intrusive thoughts: His name would pop into my head at random moments—during work, in the shower, right before sleep
• Emotional waves: I'd feel sudden sadness or longing that didn't match my current reality
• Dreams: He showed up in my dreams constantly, even though I rarely thought about him consciously during the day
• Physical sensations: A heaviness in my chest, especially when I saw his social media or heard his name
• Inability to move forward: I wanted to be open to new love, but I felt blocked, like part of me was still waiting

I wasn't heartbroken anymore. I was haunted.

My First Attempt: Why It Didn't Work

I Googled "how to cut cords with an ex" and found a simple ritual:

1. Write his name on paper
2. Burn it
3. Say an affirmation

I did it. I felt a little lighter for a day or two.

Then the thoughts came back. The dreams returned. The tightness in my chest was still there.

What I didn't know then: Cord cutting isn't just about the symbolic act. It's about recognition, compassionate release, energetic sealing, and integration.

I had skipped all of that.

What Actually Worked: The Severed Cord Ritual

A few weeks later, I found the Severed Cord Ritual Kit—and this time, I did it properly.

Here's what was different:

1. I Recognized the Tie First

Instead of jumping straight to burning, I sat with the first ritual card: Recognize the Tie.

I asked myself:

• What was I trying to keep alive by holding onto this cord?
• What truth was I avoiding?
• Where in my body did I feel this connection?

The answer hit me hard: I was holding onto the potential of who we could have been. I was mourning a future that never existed.

Naming that gave me clarity I didn't have before.

2. I Released with Compassion, Not Anger

The second card guided me to Burn the Name—but not in rage. In reverence.

I lit a white candle. I wrote his name on paper. And I said:

"I release this bond with love and clarity. What was between us has served its purpose. I return your energy to you, and I reclaim mine."

I burned the paper slowly, letting myself feel the grief without resistance.

This time, I wasn't trying to erase him. I was trying to unbind from him.

3. I Visualized the Cut

The third card walked me through the actual severance.

I closed my eyes and visualized the cord between us—thick, dark red, attached to my solar plexus.

I imagined golden scissors cutting through it cleanly. As I did, I felt a physical release—a deep exhale, like something had finally let go.

4. I Sealed My Field

This was the step I'd missed before: Seal the Space.

I visualized the place where the cord had been attached now filling with golden light, sealing over completely.

I placed my hand over my solar plexus and said:

"I am whole. I am sovereign. My field is sealed and protected."

I played the Severed Cord audio—a gentle, ambient soundscape that helped me stay grounded and present during the process.

What Happened After

The shift wasn't instant, but it was real.

Within a few days:

• The intrusive thoughts stopped
• I stopped dreaming about him
• The tightness in my chest dissolved
• I felt lighter, clearer, more present in my own life

A week later, I saw his name on social media and felt... nothing. Not anger, not longing, not even curiosity.

Just neutrality.

That's when I knew the cord was truly cut.

What I Wish I'd Known

If you're thinking about cutting cords with an ex (or anyone), here's what I'd tell you:

• It's not about hate. You can cut a cord and still honor what you shared. This is about energetic sovereignty, not erasure.
• Sealing matters. If you don't seal your field after cutting, the cord can reattach. Don't skip this step.
• Integration takes time. You might need to cut the same cord more than once, especially if the relationship was long or intense. That's normal.
• You're not being cruel. You're choosing to stop leaking light. That's an act of self-love.

Ready to Cut Your Cords?

If you're still feeling tethered to someone who's no longer in your life, you're not imagining it. You're experiencing an energetic cord.

And you have the power to cut it.

The Severed Cord Ritual Kit includes everything you need: 4 guided ritual cards, a soothing ambient audio track, and a complete PDF guide with aftercare prompts.

It's time to reclaim your energy.

Explore the ritual that helped me finally let go:

Severed Cord · Printable Ritual Kit

And as I settled into this new freedom, I found myself drawn to rituals that honored the same themes of release and alignment—like the Sacred Space Cleanse for clearing lingering energy, the Emotional Filter Ritual Kit for gentle daily recalibration, and the Void Whisper Audio for those quiet moments when I needed to drift into deeper stillness. Each has become a companion on this ongoing journey of coming home to myself.