Success and Internal Locus: Your Own Metrics
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BY NICOLE LAU
The Psychology of Internal Locus: Why Most Suffering is Optional - Module 4: Adult Internal Locus Development (18+) - Part I: Young Adult Period (18-30)
Success. What does it look like? Six-figure salary. Corner office. Big house. Luxury car. Perfect body. This is society's definition. And if you don't have these things, you're not successful. You're failing.
This is external locus in success. Your worth depends on achieving external metrics. You're chasing someone else's definition of success. And you're never enough.
But here's the truth: Success is yours to define. You get to choose what success means for you. Your metrics matter more than society's. This is internal locus in success. This is success liberation.
The External Locus Success Pattern
Society's Definition as Law: Success = money, status, possessions. If you don't have these, you're not successful. This is external locus.
Comparison as Measure: You measure your success against others'. They have more = you're less successful. This is external locus creating suffering.
Never Enough: You achieve one goal. It's not enough. You need more. This is external locus creating chronic dissatisfaction.
Sacrificing Values: You pursue success that doesn't align with your values. You're achieving but not fulfilled. This is external locus creating emptiness.
The Internal Locus Alternative
Your Definition of Success: You define what success means for you. Based on your values, your desires, your life. Not society's standards. This is internal locus.
Values-Based Success: Success = living your values. Alignment matters more than achievement. This is internal locus in success.
Enough-ness: You can be content with what you have while working toward more. You're enough now. This is internal locus.
Worth Independent of Success: You're worthy whether you're successful or not. You're inherently valuable. This is internal locus foundation.
Defining Your Own Success
1. Clarify Your Values: What matters to you? List your top 5 values. These guide your success definition.
2. Define Success for Each Value: What does success look like for each value?
3. Identify Your Metrics: How will you measure success? Alignment with values, fulfillment, growth, contribution, joy.
4. Question External Standards: Why do you want that thing? Because you actually want it? Or because society says you should?
5. Write Your Success Statement: "I'm successful when..." This is your north star.
6. Review Regularly: Your definition can evolve. Adjust as you grow.
7. Ignore Comparison: Their success is theirs. Yours is yours. Stop comparing.
Common Success Redefinitions
Career Success: Work that aligns with values, uses strengths, contributes meaningfully, allows work-life balance.
Financial Success: Enough for needs and some wants, financial security, freedom to make choices, ability to be generous.
Relationship Success: Authentic connection, mutual growth, healthy communication, aligned values.
Health Success: Feeling good, having energy, treating body with respect, sustainable habits.
Creative Success: Creating regularly, improving craft, expressing authentically, enjoying process.
Life Success: Living values, growing, contributing, connecting, experiencing joy.
Your Own Metrics
This is the message for success: You get to define what success means for you. Your values matter more than external standards.
Success is living your values. Success is alignment. Success is fulfillment. Success is whatever you define it to be.
Define your metrics. Measure yourself against your own standards. Ignore comparison. Live your definition of success.
This is success with internal locus. This is your own metrics. This is success liberation.
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